We are constantly encouraged to always seek the positive light, and the negativity of the dark is seen as something to be avoided at all costs. However, there are very few of us that will never encounter any dark negative moments, and what is dark for one may not seem dark to another. When I help others, I try to get them to confront their dark shadow side and the issues that are the cause of their blocks (rather than try to escape them or put them aside), because without the dark there is no light, and negativity can be turned into positivity on a Soul level. The lessons learned from negative experiences can shape your incarnation; it’s not how only how you react, but how you choose to act when negativity strikes.
From darkness one can learn a great deal, and from these experiences the greatest growth can occur, for the self and often the soul group too. While one doesn’t seek darkness, it should not be brushed aside, or secretly hope it goes away because it doesn’t. It will linger and emerge when you least expect it. Often avoiding negativity means it will remain or return until a certain lesson has been learned, so accept it is part of being human and it is a challenge that we all face in varying degrees. The darkness of negativity such as guilt, anger, envy, worry, and deceit happens to us all. We learn to recognize and to cope with these traits by seeing them, overcoming them, then to turn the experience in a positive one.
A prime example is when people are in negative and toxic relationships; sometimes it is better for them to part, to allow them to each have a chance at living without unnecessary negativity. While people may say divorce will look as if they have failed at marriage, does it matter what other people think when it’s not their lives? Should people stay in a toxic relationship because society expects them to? Relationships are always growing, sometimes they evolve and other times people grow apart when their paths no longer share the same direction. Those who are affected by such a decision may harbor negative thoughts, and others may breathe a sigh of relief, but humans develop and change. When those changes aren’t compatible with others, it may cause negativity and it is wiser to release that negative bond and from that, new opportunities can arise.
One learns from the experience; what they truly need and seek in a relationship, and what mistakes they made so as not to repeat them again. Having the courage to accept the darkness and to learn from it are Soul challenges that we set ourselves. Sometimes saying ‘no’ and walking away is the lesson we need to learn, hence why some issues seem as if they are on repeat and will continue until we realize what action is needed and then taken. Naturally these things take time and while a relationship breaks down it will be hard to see the positive, but in hindsight and when the pain has dissipated the negative will gradually become a positive. Often when we have a negative experience we should ask what we have gained from it, not what it has done to us; that different perspective can help the Soul release negativity and turn it into positivity.
From negative events we also learn about our strengths that we did not know we had, or it creates a situation that allows them to develop. We can discover courage and resilience when we are tested outside our comfort zone, and strength of character when we are forced to defend ourselves. Maybe you encounter a bully at work; you then learn who to trust and how to stand up for yourself, or you have been betrayed or let down by a friend and learn what is the value of a true friend and loyalty?
When we experience negative events, we may come out scarred, but always a little stronger and wiser. That’s a positive, because you have learned and it is part of the Soul growth process. Encountering negativity isn’t bad, because it shows that your Soul is evolving and is able to cope and turn these experiences into positive attributes. Mature Souls tend to have many incarnations with what can be considered negative challenges, but before a Mature Soul can become an Old Soul and guide and mentor others, they need to fully experience the dark. In doing so they then can help others when they are confronted with their shadow side, because they know how it feels and understand how to deal with the issues.
Behind the darkness there is always light, but the path to get there is not always easy (it rarely ever is), but know the light is always there and it’s okay to be in the dark at times. Once we have conquered the dark, we are no longer afraid of it, but embrace it even if it is a Dark Night of the Soul. From negative events we learn and that is a positive, because it takes you a step closer to achieving your Soul goals during your incarnation and through your experiences you can guide others and advance to the next Soul stage.