A client asked me "what's the quickest way to get control over their life"? Don't wait to meditate. Don't asked to be loved, and be the first to forgive.
When you meditate, you are in the present moment. With no regard to the future or past, you simplify your thought process and act in the best manner for that moment. And as we mediate, no action is sometimes the best option. As we align our thoughts with our breath, we invite balance into our lives which gives us peace. Don't buy into the illusion of control.
I watch too many of my clients ask for, even demand love. Those we surround ourselves with are our mirrors. When we truly love ourselves, we draw in and those individuals who mirror that love back to us. When they say if you want to know what you're going to be like in 5 years, look at the 5 people you spend the most time with, its true. We are a product of our environment. Love yourself and level up.
Forgive everyone for everything. Holding a grudge binds you to another. If someone hurts you, why continue to give them power over you? I like to send those who transgress against me, a blessing and get on my way. Thoughts of getting even, or even feelings of ill will, again binds you to that person.
So I don't like to think in terms of control. I like to think in terms of clarity. And clarity invites purity. And that is how I have survived even my darkest days.