If any of you have ever read up on the true meaning of karma, you'll remember that it is an energy, not a punishment or reward. So firing off something inappropriate gives its content energy. It puts it out there and develops. What is created by that moment when something is said that offends another person is actually very complex. The person who is speaking feels an instant embarrassment. He or she is humiliated, sorry and concerned that they have insulted someone, hurt their feelings and made themselves look unitelligent and judgemental. The recipient of that offense experiences the same, along with contempt for the speaker, and an instant feeling of being judged or put under a microscope. There is tension, stress, anger, hurt and guilt all rolling around in that moment and that energy shoots out into the universe and multiplies. Both parties then carry these emotions for a while until the energy is released and challenged by positive energy. In these situations, it usually takes a while as we all know.
So what do we do about it. To begin with, the first step is to SLOW DOWN. Not every thought needs to be vocalized. There is a reason that the brain controls these functions. Words are powerful! They need to be tailored before they are delivered. Think of your words as projects, if they are not edited before they are mailed out, do NOT deliver them!
Secondly, do not always assume that what you are thinking is so valuable to the conversation that it surpasses the need to be POLITE! There are basic rules of conduct when dealing with other human beings. Why should we hurt another person simply due to an inability to humble ourselves to the fact that not everything we say will be quoted in USA Today or on Saturday Night Live.
Thirdly, really LISTEN to the conversation. Use your intuitive skills to empathize with the other parties speaking, see their perspectives, accept the fact that what they may be saying may challenge your views, accept that, and maybe they will have something to teach you, something to inspire you that you might have missed if all you were doing was waiting for your turn to speak.
Lastly, and most importantly, understand that you never know who you are speaking to. DO NOT ASSUME that because you are standing in front of a man in a three piece suit who just got out of a Benz, that you are not speaking to a person whose family came from poverty, or of a Caucasian woman whose grandfather was of Asian decent, or of a man with children that is not homosexual, or that a mother watching children play in a playground is not the parent of the misbehaved child about whom you are speaking so candidly.
The mark of a wise man is the ability to speak intelligently and correctly with people from all walks of life. Be smart not opinionated, be empathetic not judgemental, be supportive not dismissive...and you will find and offer spirit to everyone who crosses your path.