Abstract: We all have experienced sarcasm in one form or another. Definitions and examples of different kinds of sarcasm. Asking ourselves if we are aware of how much sarcasm is part of our daily speech. Is sarcasm a heathy way to make the changes we want? Is sarcasm part of the resolution or a problem in our world? A list of choices that we can make in the moments of wanting to be sarcastic.
We all have experienced sarcasm in one form or another. Often as a funny or bitter remark with the intent to hurt or make us look and feel foolish. Sarcasm ridicules by saying the opposite of what is really meant. For example, a boss finds his employee playing on his cell phone and says, “Don’t work too hard”. We experience it in a tone, facial expression and body language as when we tripped on stick and someone laughs and says, “Did you have a nice trip? with a smile on their face.
Our history is filled with comedians that use sarcasm as their main platform. Commonly used as a way to be critical about some aspect of our society, with intent to humorously convey disapproval or scorn. Well known Irish poet and playwright, connoisseur of wit, Oscar Wilde said, “Sarcasm is the lowest form of wit but the highest form of intelligence.” Early research shows that whether or not sarcasm is a sign of intelligence, most sarcastic communication makes a statement sound more critical.
Sarcasm is also known as a way to cover up feelings. A good example of people who cover up their feelings using sarcasm are often passive aggressive. When confronted about their mean behavior they pass it off as a joke often accusing the victim of being too sensitive.
We may not be aware of how much sarcasm is part of our daily speech. Jamie C Martin, founder of Steady Mom, shares how she had not realized how much it was part of her daily speech. She goes on to say, “those passive-aggressive statements can hurt and undermine all the nurturing mamas attempt and work so hard for.”
Is sarcasm part of the resolution or a problem in our world? The shift and method of communication from one-on-one to text, emails, mobile phones and computers is changing our evolutionary process around communication. We must ask is sarcasm a heathy way to make the changes we want? When we make a mistake or hurt ourselves is sarcasm helpful? Do we want to mock, criticize and made people look foolish as we move along in our evolutionary process? What if were become part of the resolution by making our comments supportive, loving, nurturing and empowering? What if we let go of sarcasm and learn to communicate with a compassion and intent to bring forth the best in each other?
Choices we can make in the moments of wanting to be sarcastic:
About the Author:
Crystal is a certified expansion guide with the Total Integration Institute. An author, multidimensional coach and facilitator for the live event called Freedom at the Core. She is the instructor and coach for her online course, Freedom From the Inside Out. She draws from her own experience and the experience of the thousands of people she has worked with over the past 35 years. Crystal is known for the fun and empowering way she supports people in bringing forth the experiences they want in their lives. Currently she is writing a series of children's books that embrace the principles of living freedom.