You ever have one of those songs that you just can’t get out of your head. These songs are so incredibly infectious that you find yourself singing the lyrics at the most inopportune time. I guess that is the power of good music, or good marketing. The one song that I like to avoid is “Love Locked Down,” By Kanye West. It is not that I don’t like the song. I love it! I just don’t want to sing it all day.
I suppose the song resonates strongly with me because it touches on the risk we all have to take to find love. This is the meaning I got from the lyrics the first time I heard the song. Then, after the 50th time of singing the song to myself or to other people, I realized that it just wasn’t’ about love, it was about finding the right partner. We have to keep our love locked down!
We all have our ideal soul mate. Our soul mates are kind, caring, loving, resourceful faithful, honest, and incredibly good looking. They are always supportive and would never do anything to hurt us. We each have a perfect match that we are constantly searching for. But in order for us to search for him or her, we have to have a prototype that strictly exists in our heads. Then, we go through life looking to replicate him or her.
It is important to understand that there is a dichotomy that splits our world into two spheres. Everything is positive and negative, or good or bad. Thanks to Einstein, we operate under the Theory of Relativity where people have to define the best by comparing it to the rest. When it comes to relationships, we compare people to other people. Or we compare them to the ideal prototype that we have sketched out in our heads.
This way of thinking can really complicate things. Especially when we compare are current boyfriend with our ex boyfriends. Or when we compare our new girlfriend with the ideal prototype that we have drawn up in our heads. After all, we are looking for perfection. However, we get disappointed when our partners come up short, and can’t meet our expectations. So we settle. We’ve have been taught that life is about compromise, that we are never going to get all of our needs met from one single person.
However, there is one major draw back from thinking this way. Too often in life, we miss the best by settling for the rest. After all, that ideal prototype is inside of your head for a reason. It knows what is “best” for you. It is the inner voice that plays continuously like a reoccurring record, reminding you that you can do so much better. So you start singing your prototypes’ tune to your spouse, girlfriend, or lover. You start to sing it at the most inopportune times. You want him or her to be more like your prototype. So you constantly criticize or find fault with them. You want to accept them for who and what they are. However, your ideal prototype is like an infectious tune that won’t stop playing in your head.
We have to understand that good will never be good enough, when it is compared to the best. We live in a world where winner takes all. This makes it difficult to be happy unless we feel like we have the best. What is the secret to this madness? How do we find partners or people who are like our ideal prototype? First, we have to become our ideal prototype. If we feel like we are not with our ideal mate. That means we still have a lot of work to do on ourselves.
However, it is so important not to settle, or split your energy amongst several different partners. For these things will further deter you from meeting your soul mate. How do you know if you’ve met your soul mate? When you no longer feel the need to have to compare. So remember to keep your love locked down-your love locked down-keepin your love locked down-your love locked down-keep your love locked down. You lose… You lose…You lose…You lose…