What Our Emotions are Really Telling Us and How to Listen to Them

We all experience a range of emotions on a daily basis. Increasingly however, spiritually minded people tend to shun painful emotions, believing that they should be beyond such feelings and living in a state of bliss! Of course it is possible to live in greater states of peace and harmony but resisting painful emotions as they arise is not the way to achieve peace. As we know, whatever we resist persists.

Painful emotions are simply an indicator of disharmony and pleasurable emotions are an indicator of harmony. Emotions are our internal guidance system. If we veer off course, our emotions act like a warning system and are there to guide us back onto the path of love, peace and joy.

We have learned however not to use our emotions as a guidance system but to identify with emotions as they arise. We have become our emotions!

If we shift our mindset to view emotions as a barometer, rather than something to be avoided or resisted, we not only become a lot happier, but we can begin to use our emotions for our benefit. From this perspective, we can begin to observe emotions as they arise and ask ourselves a few questions. Firstly, how does this emotion feel? Does it feel good or bad? If it feels good, we can continue to choose these thoughts and emotions. If it feels anything less than good, we can ask ourselves - what is this indicating? Usually a painful emotion is indicating that we have chosen thoughts that are not in alignment with our true state of being and this feels uncomfortable. The level of discomfort is relative to the degree to which we have become misaligned.

At our purest state we are love. Love is the ultimate state of being. It is said that love isn't an emotional state, love simply is. Emotions are lower forms of love. Joy is inferior to love, happiness is inferior to joy, and contentment is inferior to happiness and so forth, all the way down to painful emotions such as discontentment, frustration and anger amongst others.

In this way, we can view emotions in layers so to speak, love being at the top and fear and the bottom. Fear then becomes the sponsor of all emotions that are anything other than pure love. When we choose to align with fear rather than love, we have chosen something that is other than what we are. So rather than resisting or fighting our emotions, we can celebrate and thank the emotion for reminding us that we have chosen a thought which is not in alignment with who we are. Having realized this, we can honor the emotion for doing it's job, forgive ourselves for choosing a thought that is in conflict with our nature and then decide to choose something that is in alignment with our source of being - love.

Five Steps to Remember:
1. Becoming aware of our emotions
2. Recognizing their purpose
3. Honoring and respecting emotions by allowing them to be felt
4. Releasing emotions
5. Choosing other emotions such as gratitude or love instead

By allowing ourselves to feel the emotion of anger for example as it arises, we are not pushing it away or letting it control us by reacting to it, we simply recognize and honor the emotion. When anger is experienced in the body without the need to externalize it, it's like a flame that has no air and gradually dies. When externalized however, it's like feeding oxygen to the flame and fuelling the fire. Usually when the anger is felt within, we realize that we are the source of the anger and not anything or anyone around us. When we externalize anger, we cannot see clearly as we are focused on a false reality of blame and projecting onto others, so we become blinded to the truth.

Feeling the emotion inside is not to say we force the emotion down. This is something completely different and leads to all sorts of problems. Anger for example when repressed usually fights back with greater force, leading to a fiery outburst at some later stage.

The process of feeling the emotion within the body without reacting to it takes great awareness and lots of practice. In the beginning, we will notice we have had an angry outburst after the event, but there will be awareness of this which is a starting point. With practice we will catch ourselves during the outburst or just before it is about to happen. Finally we will find that situations that once gave rise to anger no longer trigger us. But it doesn't end there; it is a continual practice of awareness, discipline and more awareness and discipline.

Sandra Rea is a spiritual teacher, author and energy healer. She helps people to release limiting beliefs that's holding them back and reconnect with the highest divine expression of themselves. Through her courses and lectures she shares her wisdom and knowledge to allow people start living a life of freedom and possibility. Visit her website [www.angelicbodies.ie] to find out more.

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Comment by Sandra Rea on June 7, 2016 at 4:52am
Thanks Regina, I'll do that also!
Comment by Regina Chouza on June 6, 2016 at 6:26pm

Hi Sandra - Thanks for the note. It would be great to send out notifications when articles are published but our system isn't set up in a way to make that possible - I usually check the website on Sundays to see if one of my articles has gone live and I share them when they appear.



Comment by Sandra Rea on June 2, 2016 at 5:18am
Thank you Anne Marie, thanks for the feedback. So glad you enjoyed it!
Comment by Sandra Rea on June 2, 2016 at 5:18am
Great thanks Regina. I saw my last article was included in a pr virus edition. I promoted it on my social media sites but it would be great to get a notification to say it has been published so I can be more active in promoting it. Just a thought! :)
Comment by Anne Mari Ramsdal on June 1, 2016 at 5:35pm
Spot on! Great advise for our typical struggles! :)
Comment by Regina Chouza on May 31, 2016 at 5:15pm

Wonderful thanks!

I'll send it through to the publishers for possible inclusion in an upcoming edition. The articles that are selected usually go live within 2-3 months.

Reiki hugs,


Comment by Sandra Rea on May 31, 2016 at 6:10am

Biog updated Regina. I dont think I can mail you directly. I just sent a friend request so I can message you :) 

Comment by Regina Chouza on May 30, 2016 at 10:12pm

Hi Sandra,  Thanks for the update - the article is fine but your author bio is still too long (at 95 words when we can only accomodate 60). Would you be able to trim down your bio, and please send me a message when its done - for some reason I'm not getting email notifications.

Thank you!


Comment by Sandra Rea on May 26, 2016 at 4:46pm
Hi Regina,

New version is just under 800 words (not including Biog.)

Comment by Regina Chouza on May 26, 2016 at 3:49pm

Great, thank you! =)

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