"I hate my life!" If you have ever uttered these words, chances are that you ain't that happy! But it's not your fault.
They say, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder,” well the same can be said for happiness. So often we have our ears bent from our friends detailing all the reasons for their lack of happiness. As we listen, we may wonder how they could be unhappy despite being surrounded with so many blessings. When we look at them, we cannot fathom a person in such an environment to be unhappy.
Remove your contrast lenses!
The reason many of us are blind to our blessings is because we have our sight focused on others. Our happiness only exists until we notice someone else having something we don’t have. Many of us live our lives by comparison. We always want what others have and then we also want to be the only one that has it!
What’s mine is mine and what’s yours is something that I want!
If we had no awareness of anyone or anything else but our own lives, we would undoubtedly be content with our lives. The moment we see someone else, we start to compare. All of a sudden what we have isn’t good enough. We feel inferior, jealous and competitive. What’s the solution?
Presents! Oops! I mean presence.
Presence is key to happiness, everything else is in the mind. Life is an illusion; presence removes the smoke and mirrors to present our truth. When we are present, the mind becomes silenced. At this time, we become available to connect from mind consciousness, to heart consciousness. It is our awareness from the heart that allows love to blossom.
“All you need is love.” – The Beatles
Love is the seed of all existence. When you have love, there’s nothing more you need; you have all existence with you! The rich have a bad habit of glamorizing their lifestyles with money. This makes us think that they’re living better lives.
“Without money, we’d be all rich.”
Happiness isn’t defined by the size of your wallet. Many people with empty bank accounts live abundantly. They realize the riches they have already. Their lives have become simplified due to whatever circumstances they are facing, allowing them to be abundantly happy with the basics. As they seek no more than they have, they spend less time chasing things. The chase is what keeps you looking toward the future and missing out on living happily in the present moment. The moment we compare our lives with others, we start to lose happiness.
“Everyone wants to be like Mike.”
The early 90’s Gatorade had us all trying to be someone else with their slogan, “Be like Mike,” (Michael Jordan). Much of our discontent with life comes from trying to be like someone else. We need to stop trying to emulate the lives of others. We are the master of our own selves; no one can be you better than you. It is already difficult enough to get a handle on our own personalities, but when we try to play a role as someone else, things get complicated.
“Live rich, die poor; never make the mistake of doing it the other way round.” – Walter Annenberg
The riches we seek is within our heart. When you stay out of your mind, you won’t consider comparing your life against others. When you are aligned with your own life, you no longer feel jealous or inferior to others. It is this understanding that allows you to provide support and celebrate the triumphs of others without feeling threatened. The truth behind the all the illusions becomes revealed; there is no separation between any of us.
We are all one.
By living your life to your own, you start to gain a sense of purpose and fulfillment. Trying to live your life in contrast only diverts your focus from everything you are meant to achieve in this life time. If you do not fulfill your life mission, no amount of money will make you feel happy. Your life doesn't suck! Your inability to live authentically does!
“I’m too busy working on my own grass to notice if yours is greener.”
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