Recently I went and saw a good friend of mine graduate from college, as the president of the college spoke he made the announcement, the youngest student graduating was 17 years old and the oldest was 72 years old. A significant difference in age! That in itself was inspiring!
What really inspired me though, was one of the student speakers who told the story about how prior to him attending college he had, had 85 jobs, making him move to over five states, he was fired at many of these jobs and had been advised that he had a “CHIP” on his shoulder (in short a bad attitude). What was inspiring about this speaker was when he explained, his experience, as he went to college and as a result of his hard work to get good grades he was invited to be in Honors College…
The nature of his message was this… Why not YOU!?!?!
This young man remembered the feedback he was given about having a chip on his shoulders and used that feedback to motivate himself. He also asked himself the question: Why not me?!?! This very question landed him an internship at NASA as well as many other exciting new opportunities in his life. Because as he asked himself this question he opened himself up to the possibility that what he wanted could really happen.
I smiled big as this young graduate inspired me. All my life I have asked myself the question of why me not me!?! I have pushed myself when others thought I could not do something. The truth is there is nothing we cannot do! NOTHING! All it takes is 20 seconds of courage or a leap of faith. What would your life be like if every day you faced something that scared you, what would it be like if you pushed yourself beyond your limits? Where would you be if you pulled together just enough bravery to break the status quo to break the rules and be the most authentic you that you could possibly be?
This is what it required of you in order to live a purposeful life full of joy and happiness. To “DARE” a little, to let loose a little! To take a risk to be a bit “WEIRD” to allow yourself to be FREE!
The “CHIP” on his shoulders was a “CHIP” I had on my shoulders for many years and this chip is on a lot of our shoulders, something we all at some level go through as we develop into adulthood, as we grow wiser. I thought to myself the journey I had been through as I had gone through my teens, twenties and thirties…Thinking of all the times I felt I was not loved, or accepted. Thinking of the journey I had when I didn’t think I was not good enough until I started asking myself: Why not me?
So where does this “CHIP” come from you ask? Well the story behind how it is created can be different but the core to all of it is FEAR… What do we fear? My friends it is as simple as; fear of success, we fear not succeeding, we fear maybe what everyone else has said is true.. we just fear to be afraid!
In our world we can either be in the flow or out of flow. A good friend of mine says: “You are either IN or you are OUT!” So basically you are either in the flow of the universe or you are in resistance to it.
When you ask yourself “Why not me?” you automatically put yourself into flow with the universe and by asking, you allow the infinite possibilities to work through you.
So how do I get myself into the mindset of “Why not me?” well it takes practice! When in doubt then you practice even more. I will also lay out a few things to think about, which by no means is a checklist for you to follow. It is very important for you to allow yourself to go with what you feel. This is just meant to help you with a reference point.
So ask yourself the question to whatever it is you want to do. Why not you? Now go out and act on it!