Someone recently asked me an interesting question. She wondered why her grandmother suffered for so long before passing over to the other side. I understood the question quite well. Anyone who has helplessly watched a loved one suffer through an illness and pain before passing, has the same question. Over the course of a year, my mother went from playing tennis two hours a day, to being bedridden, riddled with pain and unable to think clearly. When she died it felt like a blessing.
For months after my mother’s death I contemplated and asked my spirit guides to help me to understand why she and so many others suffer before passing over. I learned that although it is appears to make no sense and be a cruel way to live out the last days of life, the soul doesn't abide by our human perceptions. On some level we accept and create all that happens to us. It is not our conscious mind or personality and ego that makes these choices. Instead, it is the soul and spirit that perceives value and evolutionary advancement and possibilities in what in human terms is senseless and merciless. In my mother’s case, my guides told me that my mother chose to suffer in this way to “burn” off negativity and karma before entering the higher vibrations of light. In this way she was able to leave behind and dissolve emotional, mental, spiritual and even physical patterns and accumulated energy that may prevent her from rising to higher blissful layers of light more quickly upon passing.
There are many people who suffer who lived good, positive lives with kindness and integrity. There are others whose experience a slower dying process who are fearful of going over, plagued with guilt and doubtful that there is life beyond the human experiences. This kind of mental and emotional suffering is likely the most difficult.
Sometimes we choose a slower more conscious experience of dying to become more aware of our spirit and soulful self. It is only the physical and ego self that suffers. Dying pushes the soul to the forefront. The soul never suffers, it understands, heals, reveals truth and is a comforting balm to the confused human self. Many people become aware during the process of dying that there is a part of them that is eternal. They see their loved ones on the other side and make frequent trips into the spirit realm to check it out before they go over.
Sometimes people linger and die slowly as a way to bring comfort to those left behind. It can be hard to let go. Family and friends may want to hold onto their loved ones and cannot imagine life without them. A slower dying process can be an opportunity to review one’s life and forgive and be forgiven. It gives the family time to let go and say all that they need to say.
There are some souls who choose to suffer to lift the burdens and pain of others. It is the final opportunity in the physical body to love and express goodness. Conscious suffering can lift the suffering and burdens of others, when it encompasses and transmutes pain that is bigger than the individual. Shortly before my mother died she called me one night and told me that she was suffering horribly. She didn't know how to get relief. I told her to imagine that her pain was alleviating the pain of children who were suffering.
If you knew, I told her, that your suffering was helping children, could you do this? She said that she could. I was relieved when a calmness came to her. Her suffering was more than physical pain. It was the confusion and loneliness that can come when life seems to have no purpose. We need our suffering to have meaning.
Even if we do not understand it from a human perspective. This world is a flip flop of the eternal realm of spirit. What you go through and endure and what your family and friends go through is not without purpose. It is the rich soil from which your soul grows and expands into true and eternal love and life.
Psychic, Medium and Medical Intuitive, Sherrie Dillard is a best selling author with an international clientele. Her books have been translated into nine languages. www.sherriedillard.com firstname.lastname@example.org http://www.amazon.com/You-Are-Medium-Abilities-Communicate/dp/07387...