"When inward tenderness finds the secret hurt, pain itself will crack the rock and 'AH!' let the soul emerge." ~ Rumi
When we find ourselves in hurtful situations we often close up to protect ourselves. We feel a vulnerability lurching just below the surface of who we believe we are, and so when that threat appears, we construct walls in attempt to block the pain and to solidify our sense of self. This might happen many, many times throughout a lifetime....and as I'm sure we've all noticed, to some people more than others.
But these walls......do they really serve us? Do they block out pain and pain alone, or do they also keep us from the full experience of life itself?
It may be that at some point in our lives there is one remarkable event that strikes us from a different angle. Perhaps it's the gravity of the event itself or maybe just the timing of it's occurrence.....who knows? But it will come to us in it's perfect way and penetrate the tiniest crack in our being. It will enter in just the right spot and with just the right amount of force as to break our hearts open in a new way.
From here on in, we will begin to see the world differently. We will become softer, more accepting and forgiving and more compassionate. We will begin to see how inextricably connected we are, not only to other humans, but to all things in existence.
This opening to the pain also allows in a whole other spectrum of emotions for us to experience and to savour. Our newly opened hearts DO serve, and render us supple, gentle and receptive. Soon we experience sadness and beauty as two sides of the same coin.....and we finally understand the experience of one can never be fully realized without the other.
And even if there was a choice to go back, we would choose to stay. For a life without passion is not a life worth living.
A broken heart is an open heart. Truly.