Among the daily disaster stories of broken hearts, dreams and marriages, there are huge beacons of light extending ever outwards keeping the pillars of committed relationships alive and strong. Beacons of light in the form of happy, long and solid partnerships untouched by therapeutic or counselling intervention.
You may, with a small cynical smirk, say “yes but I bet those relationships are symbiotic and unhealthy, where one person must be pandering to the needs of…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on December 3, 2010 at 7:00am — No Comments
In the past year I have endlessly blogged and chatted to radio hosts about the intricacies of intimate relationships from communication styles to self observation, with unending awe as I explore the certain mysteries of love and how it affects us all. There are heaps of experts and books out there written by amazing people way more qualified than me about the psychology and technical workings of relationships, but it is my calling to offer you help in this wonderland of life, so it got me…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on November 15, 2010 at 6:36am — No Comments
OK so here you are single again, a recycled single perhaps, much like I was many times, or a virgin singleton charting unknown territory for the first time. Perhaps you have been dumped out of nowhere and are heartbroken at the sudden loss of love or perhaps you have extracted yourself from a really unhealthy relationship that made you say “thank Grace for that!” as you closed the door on it.
Whatever your single circumstances, thinking about finding another person to walk the…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on October 14, 2010 at 9:35am — No Comments
Picture the scene. You are merrily taking a day trip out with your partner and all is going very well. You are chatting and laughing together about people and life and nothing in the world seems to matter more than these precious moments. Your banter is high and the flow of energy congruent and easy between you. You look with fond eyes and have lots of warm fuzzy feelings thinking how wonderful your beau is in so many ways.
Then suddenly, unknown to them, they say something that,…
Added by Gina Hardy on September 8, 2010 at 7:15pm — No Comments
Once upon a time, in a land far far away, there lived a princess. A princess so beautiful, her Light shone, mesmerizing the people of the land. They talked only of her purity and kindness and regularly left gifts at the steps to her castle to show their appreciation for her being in their lives. Daily she sat by the river with all her nature friends, dreaming of the day when her handsome prince would come to her. Her knowing was so strong that from afar, every now and then, the handsome…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on August 5, 2010 at 1:06pm — No Comments
Think of a time when you were first dating someone you eventually went on to spend some life path time with. Ahhh remember the heady days of the romantic stage, fondly known as the honeymoon period. He/she could do no wrong, you noticed every little detail about the way they walked, talked and dressed and you positively brimmed over with pride and lust and maybe a sprinkling of early love! Your body was feeding you with love hormones and everything was just rosy in nest…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on July 20, 2010 at 3:23pm — No Comments
Those first glorious moments of spiritual or religious awakening can be huge. As we begin to open and seek our true ”selves” we start to ask questions such as “who am I?” or “why am I here?”. The first experience that connects you to your inner self is one of the most, or maybe best of your life and it’s only natural you want to share it. You find yourself reviewing jobs, friends, values, beliefs and your relationship tends to come under the spotlight very quickly because often your dear…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on June 30, 2010 at 1:18pm — No Comments
I get an overriding sense these days, upon observation of the many trials and tribulations in 21st Century relationships, that the ultimate goal is about getting love from a partner like it is something to be owned....a possession or a thing; but how that method is working less and less and causing more and more angst and tug o’ war games.
The meaning of human existence and our drive for connectedness with others and to receive and give love is a universal. Many spiritual…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on June 16, 2010 at 7:36pm — No Comments
A battle field for the heart and emotions...insecurity. It plagued my life and the men I dated, so many times in the last 25 years and was the source of great angst too many times, often with disastrous consequences.
Insecurity is a feeling that can't always be intellectualised and virtually never rationalised when in motion. The energy generated can be overpowering and when it blows the surface, an emotional eruption can be the result. I have experienced and seen many scenes of pain…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on June 16, 2010 at 5:33pm — No Comments
I have been wonderfully engrossed in some fascinating conversations lately with people who are at varying stages of their relationship journey. Some are happy and content, what a joy ! Some are "bumbling along" and some are in the middle of a tricky separation and having to explain what's going on to their partner and loved ones.
For those who are experiencing the pain of troubles in love, the explaining part is quite a challenge when you think about it, because it is feelings…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on June 16, 2010 at 5:30pm — No Comments
It struck me that there is a distinct difference between knowing when to throw the towel in and call it a day with your dear heart and when it's just your "stuff" surfacing again. But how do you really know ?
I don't profess to nailing scientific proof to either side, even though our minds want to cling to something tangible because matters of the heart are somewhat "fluffy" at times,but there seems to be flavours to the way people behave in love conflict.
Added by Gina Hardy on June 16, 2010 at 5:26pm — No Comments
I have always have a number of topics to write about on the subject of romance and relationships. In fact the list is endless; but one pressing subject I want to chat about as the sunny season of hope springs forth, is that educating your "self" in the art of creating successful relationships is the only way forward. Wouldn't you love to save a whole lot of heartache and time ?
Consciousness seems to be the major buzz word on the planet now. In essence it means becoming aware…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on June 16, 2010 at 5:20pm — No Comments
You are beautiful no matter what you say ! But do you accept yourself as the saying goes “warts and all ?”. My wish for everyone in a relationship is that they feel safe enough to be authentic every day of their lives, but authenticity requires being real and accepting that we are what we are now and that’s not an easy place for many. Think of someone who you admire because they are being themselves. There is no proving or showing off or acting, it’s just that they have learned that inner…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on May 12, 2010 at 3:58pm — No Comments
I was inspired today after my hot yoga class, to write about how people really get stuck in to the drama of their emotions. I watched people as they literally fought with their bodies throughout the class, one to deal with the extreme temperatures which were well over 80 degrees and two, to force their bodies into postures that "dear old bod" was not ready for. One guy especially caught my attention. It tickled me pink by the end of the class. He literally pumped out a dialogue of puffing…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on April 22, 2010 at 8:22am — No Comments
Leading nicely on from my last piece about how to "tool up" to communicate properly in your relationship, I find myself compelled to mention the wonderful world of non-verbal communication, in particular, texting. Daily life seems to cocoon us more and more within the world of…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on April 1, 2010 at 10:21am — No Comments
As spring approaches with the promise of new growth and lighter days and as winter's grip loses her hold you may well be starting to think about spring cleaning your life. A few people I know are making big changes in their love…Continue
Added by Gina Hardy on March 17, 2010 at 6:07am — No Comments
I feel compelled this month, above other love topics, like relationship MOTs, attachment, desire and even sex, to address another fascinating arena in our interactions with significant others. Boundaries. Do you have them ? But more to the point, do you think you should have them…Continue
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