Texting, chatting, sharing ideas and thoughts online etc lacks the personal touch and affection we all seek. Just one word can be taken wrong way or right way depending on the persons state of mind who is reading it. Hearing a persons voice and seeing their face and body language is the way we are meant to communicate. We are social animals who need the personal touch in our lives.
This raises a very important point regarding mind. So many destructive emotions which bind us in a vice. Therefore it is vital that we learn to calm our mind from destructive emotions. Jealousy, anger, hatred, presumptions, egoism. The list is enormous. A respected scientist once told His Holiness XIV Dalai Lama that it is those whose focus is on me, i, mine, myself aka self centered are at a higher rate of dying from a heart attack then those whose focus is on others well being.[Citation]
We can be the change we wish for, pray for, hope for by taming our own mental attitude. If i am really angry and lose my temper my whole body goes into an uproar as our mind controls all parts of our being but if when this occurs we can train our mind to shift from focusing on what has brought up this angry state and focus on the anger itself not giving into it but focusing on our breathing and seeing our angry attitude objectively then the flame of our anger will die because we are no longer feeding the flames so to speak.
This is very important and is not at all an easy task but with proper training of our mind seeking to not put a band aid on the wound but to seek out by careful investigation the root cause of the anger then and only then can we uproot this destructive emotion and fill the empty spot with altruism and compassion.
Worry, fear, anxiety, distrust are also destructive emotions which prevent us from having a calm peaceful stable mind. Shantideva in his "Guide To A Bodhisatvas Way Of Life" said
If the problem has a solution, worrying is pointless, in the end the problem will be solved. If the problem has no solution, there is no reason to worry, because it can’t be solved.
This i believe is very true either way there is no need to worry and upset ourselves. So answer is to hold on to calm mind and we thus also benefit all sentient beings around us by generating a calm mind and peace wherever we go.
There was in India a high Lama who had passed away and word reached His Holiness who sent a group of high Lamas to him and it was reported back that after two weeks since his passing away his body was still fresh with no sign at all of decay. After examination by medical scientists and the lamas the only conclusion was the remarkable condition of his body even two weeks after his death was due to his years and years of meditation and training of mind. [Citation]
His holiness once was paid a visit by a Tibetan monk who had been held in a chinese prison for many years and tortured many times. This monk asked His Holiness for forgiveness and His Holiness asked well what for do you ask? this monk said i asking forgiveness for almost losing compassion towards the chinese captures. [Citation]
Now just reflect on this for one moment and consider the state of calm mind in this monk after such terrible experiences.
It is my prayer that may i learn to develop such compassion for others and may i remain to help all sentient beings be free from suffering.