Abstract: We all know people who provoke in ways that enrage and exasperate us. What if we admit to the provoker within? The part of us that sometimes provokes the ones we love when really we want their love? A list of how we provoke and push people away. Tips to end the habit of provoking.
We all know people who provoke in ways that enrage and exasperate us. Those who seem to thrive on driving people away. What if we admitted that we were provokers too? That sometimes we provoke the ones we love when really we are really wanting love? What if we admit that people are distancing themselves from us? What if we admit and embrace the provoker within? What if we make the decision to part of the resolution rather than provoking another problem?
Robert Firestone, well known therapist and author of The Fantasy Bond, shares his perspective that provocation is part of a defense mechanism. A false boundary that limits our ability to pursue or accept real love and connection. A good example is Fanny who always takes over a conversation. She talks too much and makes assumptions about what other people are thinking. She notices that people are avoiding her. She wonders what is wrong them and decides she is better off just being alone.
So what can we do when if we find ourselves provoking? We can observe our behavior, breathe and take a moment to ask ourselves if we like the effect we are having. Are we are making assumptions about the other person? Are we listening? Are we asking the other person what they are thinking?
Often we are unaware of how we are provoking the people around us. In an addicted society provoking is a familiar way to keep deep connection and love away. We do have the ability to observe and notice when we are starting a downward spiral into wanting to provoke. We can identify snapshots of memories that triggered us. We can awaken in those moments that we decided to hold back and assemble provocation by being...
We can rewire those choices and take the drivers seat. We can end the habit of provoking in the following ways…
About the author:
Crystal is a certified expansion guide with the Total Integration Institute. An author, multidimensional coach and facilitator for the live event called Freedom at the Core. She is the instructor and coach for her online course, Freedom From the Inside Out. She draws from her own experience and the experience of the thousands of people she has worked with over the past 35 years. Crystal is known for the fun and empowering way she supports people in bringing forth the experiences they want in their lives. Currently she is writing a series of children's books that embrace the principles of living freedom.
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Thanks Lisa!
Thanks, Crystal. I'm forwarding this to the publishers for possible inclusion in an upcoming issue.
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