We’ve all experienced that feeling of failure. When we know we tried our best and was told that it’s not “good enough”.
It can be a very disappointing and painful experience. However, with a bit of understanding and shift of perception, we can overcome failure quickly and easily!
Failure is solely based on perception. It’s the outcome to a perceived expectation created (either by ourselves or another person). When we feel that we did not meet that expectation, then we experience the feeling of failure. Whether it’s a relationship, financial or job situation, the feeling of failure has a way of really triggering our emotions negatively.
In order to overcome our sense of failure we have to first change our perception. By having a different way of looking at a situation, we can have a better understanding of the reasons behind it. This will allow us to move forward with confidence.
Here are FOUR sure-fire ways to overcoming FAILURE.
Step ONE: TRUSTING OUR TEAM-Failure may simply be our spirit team communicating with us. We all have a spirit guide, and at times various guides will step forward and help us along our path. When we have a situation that is failing, we must look at what our spirit team is telling us. Perhaps, we are not failing, but succeeding. They are saying “hey, it’s time now to move to THIS path”. They are pushing us outside of our comfort zone, but always working for our highest good. These “nudges” can sometimes feel like shoves off the side of a cliff! The unknowing can be intimidating, but having the constant trust in our team that they are moving us in a direction that we are absolutely meant to be on, then we can rest assured knowing that we are safe. Having this feeling of security will help ease the stress that we encounter when experiencing the sense of failure.
Step TWO: RELEASING THE “WHAT IF’S”-When we feel that we’ve failed, we can create so many “what if” scenarios. What if we had responded differently, or what if we had tried harder, or what if…what if… what if! It can go on and on. Surrendering and trusting with the knowledge that we did our best can help bring peace to the situation. When we allow ourselves to accept the circumstances and to surrender to the way in which they unfolded, it releases our need to go back to the past. It also helps to avoid regret as we mull over the choices we made. Becoming mindful in the situation can vastly help the anxiety created by desiring a different result. When we are present, we naturally find ourselves in a calmer and more trusting state.
Step THREE: GAVE IT OUR BEST-When we give everything we’ve got and someone tells us “that’s not enough” we can feel devastated, under-appreciated or misunderstood. When we are feeling these emotions, we can simply take a step back and ask ourselves “Did I do my best”? If the answer is YES, then stop. No need to go any further. We have to trust that our best is GOOD ENOUGH. When we are able to look at ourselves in the mirror and know we did our best, we will feel proud to smile back at our reflection. Allowing someone else to dictate whether or not we tried our best is equivalent to giving away our personal power. With so many different people and situations, if we focus on the responses and expectation of others to gauge our self-worth then we would surely be in constant state of flux. As a result, we would always be struggling for a sense of self-worth. We have to trust our own compass. If we know we did the best we could under the circumstances we were given, then we can rest assured that it’s all working out exactly as intended by spirit.
Step FOUR: DON’T TAKE IT PERSONALLY-When we are in the midst of emotional upheaval over our failure, we can feel our confidence wavering. Our entire foundation becomes questionable and we lose the ability for clarity. We believe it when the other person has told us that either through our personality, actions or inactions, that we are “not good enough”. In our state of vulnerability, we believe them. We start to question who we are and how could we have not gotten it “right”. Words can really hurt us. That’s true, but when we remember to not take it personally, and to own our own truth, then we release holding onto their “stuff”. We can turn our mirrors out and force them to accept what they are projecting out to us. Everyone is entitled to their feelings. They, of course, have a perception. However, their perception does not need to be our reality. If we are accused of behavior that we know was not our intention, then we simply need to remind ourselves of who we are and how we work. Not taking it personally will help us stay on our true path and not easily be diverted by someone else’s point of view.
We can all experience the feeling of Failure, but having these FOUR steps will surely help us overcome that feeling in the shortest time possible and allow us to remember our self-worth in a strong and positive way. We are all good enough.
Colby is a master spiritual teacher of the LWISSD and a certified and tested member of Best American Psychics by Shay Parker. Colby serves as a professional psychic, medium, teacher author and public speaker. She currently hosts REBELations on iOM radio on Shay Parker's BEST of the BEST every 2nd Tuesday of the month. Learn more at www.psychicrebel.com