Marina:  I know that Alex loves me, and even when he is away from home traveling for business a lot, I do know that he loves me. But knowing that he loves me and experiencing his love are very different. We have worked out a method that has really been good for us over the busy years of raising kids and raising our business. We choose a block of time, a few hours during the day on a weekend, or an entire evening, where we will not be disturbed by children or the telephone, and we make an agreement to be in service to each other the entire time.


Experimenting with creative ways to show love


Alex: Over the years, we have become quite creative in the variety of ways we have devised to be in service to each other. Marina likes me to feed her dinner, and she gets a big kick out of feeding me, not just a few mouthfuls, but the whole meal! It definitely does jog us off of automatic pilot. Slowing down the pace of the meal forces us to pay attention to what is happening moment to moment. When I stay in eye contact with Marina while she feeds me or I feed her, we tune in to each other and learn a lot, she takes smaller bites than I do.  But I pause more in between bites so my pace of eating is slower. I had some resistance to it in the beginning. It brought up issues of feeling vulnerable and dependent. It’s been good for me to practice generosity and patience, gently pressing the edge of my comfort more by surrendering and allowing myself to be given to, I have become a good receiver.


Practicing both giving and receiving


Marina:  Alex is a great receiver now. Years ago when I would offer to give him a massage he would refuse. It would blow my mind. I love massage so much. I couldn’t fathom why he would say no.  Now that he has become a gracious receiver, he lets me give him full body massage and he actually enjoys it. He gives a wonderful massage too. We took a couple’s massage class. It was a great confidence booster. You don’t have to be professionally trained to do a satisfying massage. Sometimes we just massage each other’s feelings or give head rubs or back rubs.


Alex: Marina really likes it when I brush her hair. We have also played with brushing each other’s teeth. I’ve shaved her legs and armpits. She’s shaved my face, trimmed my eyebrows and nose and ear hairs. She even put my contact lenses in for me one time. We find that it breaks up our automatic patterning and keeps us more alert.  


Regular practice opens us up to deeper levels of satisfaction


Marina:  Alex has a melodic singing voice. Sometimes he’ll haul out his guitar and sing a song to me. I just melt. We don’t ever rely on the message in a card for birthdays, anniversaries, Mother’s Day, or Father’s Day.  We always write a personal message. We are constantly scanning for possible ways that we can show our love and devotion. By practicing so regularly, we have both opened to deeper levels of giving and receiving love. Even during the times when we are really busy and can’t take the few hours or the whole day to drench ourselves in the luxury of being in service to each other, we take a smaller amount of time. A little bit can go a long way.  There are long hugs, deep passionate kisses, and sweet eye contact, gestures that don’t take very long but satisfy us on the deepest level. It is these small tokens of affection that come straight from our hearts that have the greatest meaning.


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Comment by Linda Bloom on October 4, 2020 at 3:47am

Abstract: Marina and Alex have demanding careers that require that they travel a great deal. They have become experts at making the small amount of time that they have together really count. They are obviously very much in love and seek to find creative ways to demonstrate their care for each other. We all need models of couples who are truly delighting in their partnership, and this couple is a fine example.  

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