By Judi Lynch
When you were growing up, do you ever remember hearing the phrases, “You should be ashamed of yourself” or “I would be ashamed”? These words cause negative feelings which can stay with us the rest of our lives if not channeled properly into understanding and healing.
Feeling ashamed and feeling guilty are two different emotions which and help bring us into compassion for ourselves unto others. We learn to not to judge ourselves so harshly as to ever feel ashamed we are not worthy of healing and forgiveness. If we are feeling guilty, we have to examine why. Is that guilt truly justified?
If we have wronged someone purposely and need to apologize or make amends, it is a lesson in humility and forgiveness for our soul. If we have guilt that is unjustified, we can be imagining we are responsible for events that we consciously had no control over. Others can make us feel we have done something wrong when we had no intention of causing them any hurt whatsoever. In these instances it is so important to let go of things which needlessly make us suffer.
Just realizing that we can release this type of guilt is part of the healing process. We can accept and correct these feelings back to worthiness with unconditional love for ourselves and others. Many times we can harbor guilt over family issues we personally feel unequipped to handle or are unnecessary for us to take on. It can be very uncomfortable dealing with others who judge and belittle us because we don’t share the same the same principles or morals as others in the family.
If we remember to look at each other with; respect, humor and unconditional love, it becomes possible to step back and look at each situation in all its glory. The Earth is full of all kinds of souls with opinions, reasons, judgments and causes. It is also full of synchronicity, serendipity, magic and miracles. Always look for how the challenge makes you stronger. Do you really have any thing to feel guilty over? Do you need to express your apologies to others? Or have you been shamed into feeling guilty about a situation when it is really an opportunity to examine and heal these feelings of inadequacy in this lifetime?
Religious and political differences are common reasons for division in many families. If we are shamed and told we should feel guilty over our core beliefs and life purposes, isn’t it up to us to look for ways to gain courage? Isn’t this an incredible purpose to live out the life we came here for? To live and feel empowered, to speak up and separate ourselves from these destructive attitudes and energies? We all have the right to protect ourselves from abuse in any form but we also have to look for the soul lessons involved and every opportunity to grow.
When we understand that very critical and judgmental people usually came from an atmosphere of the same, we can give them our compassion and understanding. We can send them light energy through our thoughts and prayers to help heal their own thoughts of inadequacy that causes them to be judgmental and fearful of others. It doesn’t mean we have to interact with them regularly or make them a part of our inner circle. As long as we can grow through the situation without wallowing in feelings of shame or guilt, we can feel the situation change us forever for the better.
Sending gratitude to the challenges that come for helping us on our journeys, we continue to elevate our vibrations a little higher. We can become brighter in every way you can imagine. Let guilt serve its purpose in our lives, show it the exit sign and let it go!
Judi Lynch is a psychic medium, spiritual adviser, healing energy channel, author and teacher. She is the co-founder of the Crystal Healing Foundation, Inc., a 501(c) 3 non-profit charity. Her book Friends with Lights, A True Story is available on Amazon; a featured columnist for OM Times Magazine, she has read for clients all over the world.
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